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Nikkya Hargrove

Nikkya Hargrove is an author, mother, and advocate. She is a graduate of Bard College, and a 2012 Lambda Literary Non-Fiction Fellow. Her writing includes topics like same-sex multi-ethnic marriage, becoming a mom as a gay woman, the prison system, and having a special needs child. Nikkya currently lives in New England with her Sri Lankan-American wife and their three children. Her forthcoming memoir, Mama: A Black, Queer Woman’s Journey to Motherhood, is expected in 2024.

LGBTQ Parenting | Patient Stories | Twins

By: Nikkya Hargrove
September 13th, 2023

When the ultrasound showed two, healthy, strong heartbeats, the look on my wife’s face was priceless. She turned to our fertility doctor, wondering if he was certain that we were having twins. “Are you sure?” she asked, quickly followed by: “There aren’t any more, are there?”

LGBTQ Parenting | Sperm Donors | Patient Stories | Twins

By: Nikkya Hargrove
April 4th, 2023

Photo: The Rathkopfs Dinushka, my now wife, and I met on a dating website over 16 years ago. We got to know each other via phone calls and emails for a month before our first date in 2007. Over email, I first shared with Dinushka that I wanted to have kids. Then, she shared with me that she did not. This is the story of what happened next.