Family Building Through Adoption for LGBTQ Dads

Increasingly, LGBTQ parents are choosing to build their families through adoption. Today, nearly one-quarter (21.4%) of same-sex couples with children have chosen to adopt. There are over 100,000 children in the U.S. waiting to be adopted into a good, loving home – and yours could be one of them.

There are many paths to adoption and understanding the landscape is critical to choosing the one right for you. Setting realistic expectations is the first step towards embracing what lies ahead. Our goal at Gay Parents to Be is to provide you with the information you need to begin your adoption journey.

Private Adoption

One type of adoption many LGBTQ individuals and couples choose is known as private adoption. It occurs through a private adoption agency or independently through specialized legal professional and can occur domestically or internationally.

Public Adoption (Foster-to-Adopt)

Adopting through a public child welfare agency, also known as foster-to-adopt, is also an option. Public adoption occurs when a family that is fostering a child moves to permanently adopt. Many LGBTQ adoptive families begin with fostering a child.

Choosing an Adoption Agency

In some states, it may take a little more effort to find an adoption agency willing to match a match with an LBGTQ individual or couple. That’s why we are providing some helpful resources for finding an agency that’s a good fit for you.

Navigating Adoption Laws

Laws governing adoption are complex and varied. Each state (and each country) has its own set of laws and regulations that must be followed. Understanding the laws that apply to your adoption can aid in planning and prevent unwelcome surprises along the way.

Costs to Adopt

Costs to Adopt

The cost to adopt a child varies substantially depending on a number of factors, including which route to adoption you choose. While each case is different, understanding the types of expenses you may incur may help with decision-making.

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The Adoption Process

The Adoption Process

What exactly is the process to adopt a child? While it can vary from state-to-state and case-to-case, there are some basic steps that most adoptions follow:

Private Adoption Public Adoption (Foster-to-Adopt)



We understand that the adoption process is complex and may require a significant investment in time, energy and financial resources. Check out a list of some commonly asked questions about the journey to adoption.