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LGBTQ+ Dads to Be

The IVF Process For Gay Men

For gay men, biological family building requires the process of In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) with an egg donor and a gestational carrier

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Consideration 1

Preconception Wellness

Discuss personal lifestyle choices to optimize your health in order to produce the best sperm to create the embryos. There are small lifestyle choices that you can make to ensure that your sperm is as strong and healthy.

If needed, we will recommend lifestyle changes that will help maximize production of healthy sperm to obtain the best DNA possible. At your next visit you will produce a sperm specimen, which will be screened and cryopreserved until the eggs are ready for fertilization.

Other Factors to Consider:

  • Medication usage
  • Exposure to reproductive toxins
  • Smoking
  • Excessive alcohol use
  • Marijuana or illegal drugs
  • Steroid use
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Consideration 2

Whose Sperm?

A single sperm is used to fertilize a single egg. The question that often comes up is, can both guys from a gay male couple mix their sperm together? The simple answer is no. The IVF lab will not mix the sperm together. However, if you’re a couple, you can elect to have half the eggs to be fertilized with one partner’s sperm and the other half of the eggs fertilized by the other partner. The embryos created are identifiable in the lab as to which one was created by which biological father.

Consideration 3

In Vitro Fertilization (IVF)

Once the egg donor has been screened and chosen, she is stimulated with medication to produce multiple eggs. After the eggs have grown to a specific and appropriate size, an egg retrieval procedure is performed. Most egg donors produce a high quantity of eggs, and are of good enough quality to ensure maturation to a healthy embryo stage. Careful screening will produce the best results.

During the in vitro fertilization (IVF) process, the sperm you provide is combined with the egg donor’s eggs in the laboratory to create embryos. At this point, the embryos may be frozen if genetic testing is desired, or they are transferred into your gestational carrier (or surrogate’s) uterus as fresh embryos via an intrauterine catheter. If frozen, they will be thawed and then replaced into the uterus of the gestational carrier. After transfer, any remaining, viable blastocysts can be frozen for later use if desired by the intended parents. A pregnancy can be detected 11 to 12 days after the embryo transfer.

Consideration 4

Preimplantation genetic screening (PGS)

Some embryos have a higher chance of a successful pregnancy than others. Preimplantation genetic screening (PGS) can identify genetic markers related to Down syndrome, Genetic disorders, the sex of the child as well as other. Choosing the embryo that is chromosomally normal (has 23 pairs of chromosomes, for a total of 46) will have the highest likelihood of a successful pregnancy, which is the ultimate goal.



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