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Mourning Losses – The Tragedy of Orlando

June 14th, 2016 | 4 min. read

By Lisa Rosenthal


As a community, and as a country, we are mourning the loss of LGBT people who will not be living a complete life. They will not be creating families or raising the families that they have already created. They will not be participating as friends, siblings, children, partners or spouses. They will not live the full lives that they, and we, had every reason to anticipate.

We mourn for these people as if they were our own. Because they are.

They are us. And we are them. They had dreams and talents to contribute to the world that we have been robbed of- they were robbed of being to offer who they were and we were robbed of being able to receive who they were.

Now everything will be in past tense. We will only be able to talk about what they have already done, never about what they will do. There will never be a future in which they appear, except in our minds, hearts, imaginations and conversations.

How do we honor their shortened lives?

We stand strong. And we carry on. We build our families and we raise them to respect human life. We talk about them. We cry when we miss them and we hug each other extra gently when the grief overtakes us.

We stand proud, because while they can’t any longer, we can. And that should be our strongest commitment. Not to be bowed or crippled from fear.

To stand proud because they no longer can.

We are sending love. And strength. And commitment to keep working towards peaceful co-existence. We reaffirm our vows to fight hatred, ignorance and bigotry.

We stand proud for each and every life that was taken away so brutally in Orlando.

Nelba Márquez-Greene, LMFT was Ana Grace’s mother. Ana died in the Newtown tragedy. Her mother’s comments here will precede the names of those that died in Orlando this week.

“Orlando, I’m sorry that our tragedy wasn’t enough to save your loved ones.”

Remembering their names here today to honor their lives.

Stanley Almodovar III, 23 years old

Amanda Alvear, 25 years old

Oscar A Aracena-Montero, 26 years old

Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33 years old

Antonio Davon Brown, 29 years old

Darryl Roman Burt II, 29 years old

Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28 years old

Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25 years old

Luis Daniel Conde, 39 years old

Cory James Connell, 21 years old

Tevin Eugene Crosby, 25 years old

Deonka Deidra Drayton, 32 years old

Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, 31 years old

Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25 years old

Mercedez Marisol Flores, 26 years old

Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22 years old

Juan Ramon Guerrero, 22 years old

Paul Terrell Henry, 41 years old

Frank Hernandez, 27 years old

Miguel Angel Honorato, 30 years old

Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40 years old

Jason Benjamin Josaphat, 19 years old

Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30 years old

Anthony Luis Laureanodisla, 25 years old

Christopher Andrew Leinonen, 32 years old

Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21 years old

Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, 49 years old

Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez, 25 years old

Kimberly Morris, 37 years old

Akyra Monet Murray, 18 years old

Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20 years old

Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25 years old

Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36 years old

Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32 years old

Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, 35 years old

Enrique L. Rios, Jr., 25 years old

Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27 years old

Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, 35 years old

Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, 24 years old

Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24 years old

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years old

Shane Evan Tomlinson, 33 years old

Martin Benitez Torres, 33 years old

Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, 24 years old

Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37 years old

Luis S. Vielma, 22 years old

Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, 50 years old

Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, 37 years old

Jerald Arthur Wright, 31 years old

Today, we acknowledge the incredible and heartbreaking loss of those lives and all the lives that they touched. We send love and support to partners and spouses, parents, children, siblings, friends. We mourn for the way in which they died. We mourn for their unfinished lives. We mourn for the hatred and ignorance that continues to perpetuate these tragedies.

Lisa Rosenthal

Working with Gay Parents To Be and our partner fertility clinic, Illume Fertility, as a dedicated Patient Advocate gives Lisa Rosenthal an opportunity to expand her passion and commitment to reproductive health and family building. Lisa is committed to supporting all families in having the families that they desire, in the ways that work best for them.

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