It’s that time of the year. There’s been lots of conversation in the last month about the following important concepts. A resolution, an intention, a gift. A new year.
New Years Resolutions
A resolution can have a very hard edge to it. Similar to a decree, complete with a banging of a gavel in a court of law. This shall be done!
Maybe that’s just what you need to move ahead with planning your family. A decree. You will take these steps, in this manner, within this time schedule. Creating a schedule, with a set plan is a viable option for some of us. For some of us, it can be just the impetus to map out the steps and strategies. A schedule can create the motivation needed to take that very first step, because the steps are broken down; making your resolution more understandable and manageable.
Intentions for the New Year
It’s possible that you need something a little gentler. An intention asks you to consider something different than how you have been living in your life presently. Maybe something brand new. Maybe something scary or intimidating. Maybe stopping a behavior or releasing an assumption that has gotten in the way of a goal or dream. An intention invites, in a loving way, to put aside a preconceived notion or two or eight, to create literal, figurative and spiritual space for something new. To take a breath and within that open space to realize that there are choices available, different than the ones that you have made thus far.
New Years Gift to Yourself
That brings us to a gift. As we end a season that is traditionally full of gift giving, it may be that you didn’t receive the gift that you truly desire. That the lovely and loving gifts that you have received didn’t feel fulfilling or satisfying. Sometimes we don’t even realize it. Instead of feeling grateful, we feel dissatisfied. That lack of gratitude stemming from not really receiving our heart’s desire. These feelings tend to walk hand in hand with guilt, by the way.
If it’s the reality of a child in your home, in your arms and in your heart that you are yearning for, there’s very little else that will satisfy.
The last conversation that we have at this time of the year is about just that; the time of the year. 2014 is over and 2015 is here.
To take the steps towards the family that you want, what fits you best?
A resolution, an intention or a gift?
Consider giving yourself all of those things wrapped up in one.
Make This Year Different
Make a consultation to find out what your family building options are. Just make the appointment. Have the conversation. Find out the realities of the steps that you will need to take.
No one but you can decide when you’re ready to take those steps.
To help make 2015 different, make the appointment so that when you feel ready to take those steps, you know what you will need to do.
That’s how you wrap up resolution and intention and give yourself the gift of 2015.
Working with Gay Parents To Be and our partner fertility clinic, Illume Fertility, as a dedicated Patient Advocate gives Lisa Rosenthal an opportunity to expand her passion and commitment to reproductive health and family building. Lisa is committed to supporting all families in having the families that they desire, in the ways that work best for them.